Mom Asks Guests to Donate $5 to Daughter's Birthday Party

“Why Even Invite Guests?” — Mom’s List of “Won’t-Dos” for Daughter’s Birthday Party Sparks Debate

"I can tell your husband must have the patience of a saint."

Apr. 24 2024, Published 1:34 p.m. ET

A mom who appears to be exasperated with the idea of throwing a birthday party for her 1-year-old daughter has sparked a TikTok debate after posting a video on the preferred social media application highlighting a chain of rules she's going to abide by when it comes to web hosting the event.

Rachel, (@rachonlife) used to be lifeless set in opposition to overspending on the party, pointing out that she's no longer going to be serving full foods and that she would no longer be accepting any items however would fairly have other people just come and keep at her position for an hour and a part while other people revel in snacks.

She additionally mentions in the video that during lieu of gifts, she would a lot quite have people donate $5 to a fund so she may just re-sod her backyard which seems like a "trainwreck."

Rachel rattles off the things she can be doing another way for her daughter's first birthday party in comparison to her first child, her son's one-year bash.

Right off the bat, she desires to ensure other people know she does not be expecting them to "sacrifice [their] entire Saturday" for the party, writing that she schedules it only from 9.30 am to 11 am.

The TikToker went on to say that as a result of her "child needs to nap" she does hope and expect everybody to depart at that same "end time" and that they will have to be thoughtful of that.

Rachel adds that any one who's attending a 1-year-old's birthday party is most certainly already out of bed at 9.30 am on a Saturday within the first place.

Because of the timing of the party, Rachel went on to provide an explanation for that a meal on the party is not going to be served. While snacks are undoubtedly going to be available, other folks must be expecting to eat a full meal prior to they head on over to her crib for the hour and a half lengthy affair.

On top of no longer serving a meal, she's "not doing games" nor is she "doing anything really." The party "vibes" she's going for are from the '90s she says: there may be going to be a ball pit, some toys for the youngsters to play with, and a trampoline up out of doors for kiddos to hop round on.

She also stated that she is "not spending money on this," while going on to observation, "And I am an excessive shopper like I...this headband costs $75 okay?" she says, pointing to the object of clothing on her head. "I'm not spending money on this. Like I spent money to get invitations printed and that's it."

"It's not going to be expensive," she reiterates in the video prior to writing to folks that she "specifically" requested other people to not bring presents to the home. "We're doing a Harry Potter themed birthday party for her, her name is Hazel Paige so HP...I'm a big Harry Potter nerd, like it's a whole thing," she says.

She went on to element the Potter-themed verbiage by which she detailed to party guests that they shouldn't be offering her kid with any presents after they attend this birthday.

Instead, she wrote, "If you feel inclined to bring something consider $5 because we're trying to remodel, re-do our backyard, we need to re-sod...our backyard is a trainwreck. Bring us five bucks to help us re-do our backyard that's what we're asking, but she does not need anything," she says.

The mom persisted, "And I am very picky I don't want you to buy s--- for my kids."

Another rule for her daughter's first birthday party? No liquor or beer: "Also we're not serving alcohol I know it's pretty normal to serve booze at kid's birthday parties these days, like we did it our son's first birthday party and second birthday party, we had a freaking Taco Bar and margaritas," she stated.

But this is not the case for her daughter's first b-day. Rachel briefly considers getting a bottle of champagne for the party but in the long run rules towards it, declaring that her and her husband do not drink but they get booze for other people.

Another no-no for her daughter's party? No cake because "it is...9:30 in the morning."

She mentioned that as an alternative of a giant cake, she's going to make "little coffee cakes and decorate them to look like mandrakes...because Harry Potter," she says into the camera after choosing up her crying daughter, who instantly stops after her Mama picked her up.

There had been some folks who agreed along with her review of events, declaring that she has no downside going all out for her children as soon as they grow older and that throwing large-scale engagements early on was more or less unnecessary as they are not going to commit it to memory. Kind of like taking an infant to Disney World.

But there were also those that mentioned they'd in a different way feel "guilty" if they went all out for one child but did not do the same for some other.

What do you think? Are Rachel's rules for the party just a little too hardlined? Or is it better for her to save her party price range ($seventy five headbands no longer integrated) for her children when they're older?

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