Man Hid Millions in Inheritance from His Fiance for 4 Years While She Paid All Their Expenses

Man Hid Extreme Wealth From Fiancée for 4 Years While She Struggled to Pay All Their Expenses

Aug. 24 2020, Updated 11:39 a.m. ET

It's comprehensible that a person might not reveal their extreme wealth to the person they're relationship for some time. You need to be certain that the person really likes you as a result of who you might be, now not the money you will have. That being said, when it's four years in and you might be engaged is a little late.

Especially when your now-fiancée has been struggling to stay you afloat for years, even giving up some of her most prized possessions to have the funds for life-saving surgery for the dog that you simply brought into your life. And that is the story of this shocking Relationship_Advice submit.

OP explains that she just found out her fiancé is wealthy, "and I mean ridiculously so," she writes. After he proposed, he started speaking about pre-nups, and she laughed because they'd always been broke. "Who said I was broke?" was his answer.

That's when it got here out that he is, as he described it, "comfortable." In fact, he has millions and millions of dollars that he inherited from his grandparents. That he never advised her about in all the 4 years that they have got been in combination. But that's not even the issue for OP.

She writes, (*4*)I've actually been offering for us because he's an aspiring author, and I wanted to lend a hand him with his goals. I pay all the expenses and supply for us each." She's literally been keeping them afloat for years, struggling and selling meaningful objects of value to save their dog, meanwhile, he's had this insane secret stash he's never once mentioned. 

And the first time he did mention it was when they were engaged, because now he wants to protect the money from his fiancée. Dirtbag. Look, I get the impulse to keep your wealth a secret for a while in a new relationship, but once you know things are serious, and when you see your partner struggling to pay for things while you sit their twiddling your thumbs, it's time to come clean and step up and help. 

Now, OP feels like he used her for the duration of their relationship. "I had to paintings crazy hours and work a second task once in a while to enhance us when he could've so easily sorted us both and even just paid his proportion," she writes. Yeah. She didn't even expect him to pay for everything...just his half of the expenses. That's not too much to ask. 

In the comments, OP writes that her jaw fell to the floor when he finally came clean about how much money he had. She asked him why he lied and why he let her work so hard for so long when he could have stepped in. 

His reason? "Money is what tore my circle of relatives aside and other people never like me for me once they know I've money." I get that fear. But obviously this woman loves him for him. She's been propping him up for four years out of love for him. 

He also said he decided to stop using his inheritance before they met because he wanted to do things on his own. OP stepped in to remind him that "he didn't do anything on his 'own' for over three-and-a-half years as a result of I carried his load of the household bills." 

She continues, "When I requested him why he did not step in when I used to be selling my mom's violin for a canine he introduced into our lives... His resolution: 'Well, I did not think you could possibly actually sell it and earlier than I knew, you did.'" Not good enough, buddy.

Even if he didn't want to use any of his wealth, even if he was actually adamant about making it on his own, you still tell the person you're going to marry about the fact that it exists. How hard is it to look into the eyes of the person you love and trust the most in the world and say, "Hey, I've this inheritance. I am truly wary of the usage of any of it as a result of money is what tore my circle of relatives aside and I are not looking for that to happen to us. So I'm not going to make use of it until we completely want to. But you must know that it exists because we're a crew. Also, I can paintings to ensure I will be able to give a contribution just up to you do to the connection. I simply want us to live an ordinary lifestyles"?

If after a year or two of loving him, OP said, "Eff that! I would like your cash!" then you know the relationship is doomed. But mature people can handle conversations like that, and in no world should he have coasted by while his fiancée gave up everything she had to keep them afloat.

Commenters were appalled. His behavior is really immature and disrespectful, and it's clear he doesn't value OP and trust her. One commenter wrote, "The proven fact that he didn't give a contribution a single cent to expenses all this time and you needed to work a 2d activity to reinforce you both, AND he had the audacity to speak about a pre-nup? Nope. You deserve higher."

Another commenter was a little more blunt: "You feel like he used you the entire time because he did use you the entire time. And will proceed to take action if you're foolish enough to marry him ... Sorry, that is unforgivable."

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